I love this! Society usually only recognizes Romantic relationships that may only see or be with us through a specific time period or stage of life. Our friendships are the relationships that see us through multiple stages, phases and versions of ourselves.
the entire piece resonates. Friendship is a topic the internet doesn’t get reminded of enough: We rather listen to love tales. I keep asking those in my corner;
i start by asking “do you think everyone is supposed to get married?”
i get a “no”
then i ask; “since everyone isn’t supposed to get married, how do we know those who aren’t? how do you know you aren’t one of them?”
i typically get a dead silence.
but guess what? everyone is bound to have friends. How about we all channel that same energy we use in romantic relationships into our friendships too?
I’m so happy this resonates with you! This is such an interesting perspective. Do you think everyone who genuinely wants to get married is meant to? I feel like not everyone shares that desire—and that’s totally OK. But for those who do feel it deeply, I pray they’ll get to experience that kind of love and partnership. Of course, I know that even when people want a happy marriage, it doesn’t always work out, or sometimes it doesn’t happen at all.
All in all, I wholeheartedly agree that everyone is meant to have friends or at least one true friend. And we should definitely pour into all of our relationships with the same or similar intention. The floor is yours. 🎤
hahahahahaha! she said “the floor is mine”. i felt seen, AM.
reminds me of the days on clubhouse app when that was the common lingua once one is done when passing their point. It’s either that or “i yield my mic”. It was so funny but it was interesting to see how users come up certain phrases to engage on a platform.
i digress.
i think that singlehood is a topic that we need more creators or writers writing around. Making single people who don’t want to be partnered up with someone should have spaces where they can go to. But we only have relationships blog/vlogs/articles because everyone is conditioned to crave a love story.
But that love story can also happen in friendships. Why do we have to be sold on the idea that we can only attain a level of intimacy while in relationships? It’s quite annoying and all this started to hit me when i turned 30 in a may. May it’s an age thing but a lot of things have become clearer than a year ago.
I just celebrated with friends I have had for over 20 years. We had a ladies adult sleepover weekend and the theme was Fall since we all live in New England or Tri-State area. I hosted everyone at my house and the weekend was such a breath of fresh air! My husband delighted in witnessing it all. It was like we were girls again. That’s what I love about friendship, it has this ability to make you straddle the line of present day and a previous you in such a special way. That perspective of an older version of you and present day you, I feel helps shake up the minutiae of every day life in a positive way. Reminds me to cherish the little girl in me who paved the foundation of the woman I am today who is sharing her written word on substack and supporting others by responding to the posts that find me.
I am absolutely living for the fall-themed sleepover weekend—what a perfect way to celebrate enduring friendships! 20 years is special. Your reflection on the power of friendship to bridge the past and present is so beautifully expressed and resonates with me deeply. Thank you for sharing and for being part of this space. 💛
Friendships are more important than any romantic relationship you may have. My friends and I always celebrate our anniversaries together, even if it's just a simple text. Might be more fun to go an celebrate with a nice dinner or date night.
Evan, thank you so much for sharing this! It’s amazing to think about how friendships can span decades and become woven into our lives and then eventually woven into the lives of our kids (no kids for me yet). You have such a beautiful community around you and that’s truly something to celebrate.
Totally here for alll the friend-aversaries. What a great way to honor those bonds that mean so much to us. 💛
Nice article! Well done!
So happy to have you here and grateful your support. 💛
A toast to friendship 🥂💛
One of the greatest gifts of life I totally agree
I’m so happy this resonates with you! Cheers to friendship! 💛
I love this! Society usually only recognizes Romantic relationships that may only see or be with us through a specific time period or stage of life. Our friendships are the relationships that see us through multiple stages, phases and versions of ourselves.
Thank you for being here, Jessica! 💛
the entire piece resonates. Friendship is a topic the internet doesn’t get reminded of enough: We rather listen to love tales. I keep asking those in my corner;
i start by asking “do you think everyone is supposed to get married?”
i get a “no”
then i ask; “since everyone isn’t supposed to get married, how do we know those who aren’t? how do you know you aren’t one of them?”
i typically get a dead silence.
but guess what? everyone is bound to have friends. How about we all channel that same energy we use in romantic relationships into our friendships too?
i yield my mic. 🫢
I’m so happy this resonates with you! This is such an interesting perspective. Do you think everyone who genuinely wants to get married is meant to? I feel like not everyone shares that desire—and that’s totally OK. But for those who do feel it deeply, I pray they’ll get to experience that kind of love and partnership. Of course, I know that even when people want a happy marriage, it doesn’t always work out, or sometimes it doesn’t happen at all.
All in all, I wholeheartedly agree that everyone is meant to have friends or at least one true friend. And we should definitely pour into all of our relationships with the same or similar intention. The floor is yours. 🎤
hahahahahaha! she said “the floor is mine”. i felt seen, AM.
reminds me of the days on clubhouse app when that was the common lingua once one is done when passing their point. It’s either that or “i yield my mic”. It was so funny but it was interesting to see how users come up certain phrases to engage on a platform.
i digress.
i think that singlehood is a topic that we need more creators or writers writing around. Making single people who don’t want to be partnered up with someone should have spaces where they can go to. But we only have relationships blog/vlogs/articles because everyone is conditioned to crave a love story.
But that love story can also happen in friendships. Why do we have to be sold on the idea that we can only attain a level of intimacy while in relationships? It’s quite annoying and all this started to hit me when i turned 30 in a may. May it’s an age thing but a lot of things have become clearer than a year ago.
i yield my mic. 🎤
I just celebrated with friends I have had for over 20 years. We had a ladies adult sleepover weekend and the theme was Fall since we all live in New England or Tri-State area. I hosted everyone at my house and the weekend was such a breath of fresh air! My husband delighted in witnessing it all. It was like we were girls again. That’s what I love about friendship, it has this ability to make you straddle the line of present day and a previous you in such a special way. That perspective of an older version of you and present day you, I feel helps shake up the minutiae of every day life in a positive way. Reminds me to cherish the little girl in me who paved the foundation of the woman I am today who is sharing her written word on substack and supporting others by responding to the posts that find me.
I am absolutely living for the fall-themed sleepover weekend—what a perfect way to celebrate enduring friendships! 20 years is special. Your reflection on the power of friendship to bridge the past and present is so beautifully expressed and resonates with me deeply. Thank you for sharing and for being part of this space. 💛
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Alexandria, this is so true. Friendships are so important in life and not celebrated enough. I I love this perspective!
Thank you for your support sister! 💛💛
Friendships are more important than any romantic relationship you may have. My friends and I always celebrate our anniversaries together, even if it's just a simple text. Might be more fun to go an celebrate with a nice dinner or date night.
YES to all the celebrations!! 🥰
So true!!
I have three friends I’ve had for 40 years. We marvel at it all the time, especially when our kids are together.
I’ve got three more I’ve had for 30.
They all know each other too.
And I’ve got a group of 20.
The people I started my career with.
It’s worth celebrating!!
Thank you for writing this!!
I’d love to hear experiences from other readers. Do you celebrate your friend-aversaries?
Evan, thank you so much for sharing this! It’s amazing to think about how friendships can span decades and become woven into our lives and then eventually woven into the lives of our kids (no kids for me yet). You have such a beautiful community around you and that’s truly something to celebrate.
Totally here for alll the friend-aversaries. What a great way to honor those bonds that mean so much to us. 💛